Domestic abuse

12/15/2020 11:42:45 AM

2. Stalking

Stalking is fixated, persistent and unwanted attention that makes you feel pestered and harassed. It includes behaviour that happens two or more times, directed at or towards you by another person, which causes you to feel alarmed or distressed or to fear that violence might be used against you.

Stalking is a horrific crime that affects 1 in 6 women and 1 in 12 men across the course of their lifetime. Anyone can be a victim, and anyone could be a perpetrator of stalking.

For further information on stalking and the law, please visit Suzy Lamplugh Trust: stalking and the law.


Stalking behaviors include:

  • sending flowers or unwanted gifts
  • damaging property
  • unwanted phone calls or text messages
  • driving past the victim's home or workplace
  • gathering information on the victim by contacting people who know the victim, for example using public records
  • threats to the victim or those close, particularly those who are seen to be 'protecting the victim' or acting as the buffer between the victim and the stalker
  • burglary or robbery of the victim's home, workplace, car

You can check the signs to see if you are being stalked by visiting the Suzy Lamplugh Trust: am I being stalked.


Immediate guidance and support

Things you can do, straightaway, if you feel that you are experiencing harassment or stalking:

  • Keep a diary of events; write down the date, time, location and any other details you believe are relevant.
  • Keep copies of all communication e.g. letters, text messages, phone calls, emails, and social media.
  • Carry a personal alarm
  • Download a personal safety app – the Holliguard app provides a level of personal safety and protection when travelling alone.
  • Do not engage with your stalker in any way
  • Call the police - always call 999 in an emergency - it's an emergency when a crime is being committed, there's a risk of injury or serious damage to property.
  • Call 101 if there is no immediate danger.


For more support services, please visit our support for victims webpage

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Last updated: 15 December 2020

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