1. Support for victims
Domestic abuse is any incident, or pattern of incidents, of controlling, coercive or threatening behaviour, violence or abuse between those aged 16 or over who are or have been intimate partners or family members, regardless of gender or sexuality. Types of abuse can encompass but is not limited to:
Controlling behaviour is a range of acts designed to make a person subordinate and/or dependent by isolating them from sources of support, exploiting their resources and capacities for personal gain, depriving them of the means needed for independence, resistance and escape and regulating their everyday behaviour.
Coercive behaviour is an act or a pattern of acts of assault, threats, humiliation and intimidation or other abuse that is used to harm, punish, or frighten their victim.
Remember you are never to blame for abuse, it is a choice made by the abuser.
Immediate guidance and support
- If you are in immediate danger you should contact the police on 999.
- If you are unable to talk on the phone but are in immediate danger, dial 999 from your mobile and then press 55 - the police can assist you without the need to talk though their Silent Solution System.
- If you are not in any immediate danger but want to record an incident, you can call Thames Valley Police on 101
- If you are worried about causing harm to the ones you love you can contact the respect phone line: 0808 802 4040
If you feel that you, a friend or a family member is experiencing domestic abuse, you can:
- find out more from by downloading our printable domestic abuse leaflet.
- learn about the warning signs by visiting the Women’s Aid website
- get practical support and information through the through Women’s Aid survivor’s handbook.
- get specialist help and support for male victims and those supporting them from Mankind
- get advice and support by downloading the Bright Sky app
- receive support and advice if you are experiencing domestic abuse or have left an abusive relationship by downloading the Holliguard app
- see if a new or existing partner poses a risk to you, a close friend or family member through the Domestic Violence Disclosure Scheme (DVDS), often called ‘Clare’s Law’ – the DVDS gives any member of the public the right to ask the police if their partner may pose a risk to them and make an application to the Thames Valley Police.
- Aylesbury Women's Aid – supporting women and children in Aylesbury, information advocacy and refuge accommodation to women and children fleeing domestic violence or forced marriage - telephone: 01296 437777 email: aylesburywomensaid.org.uk
- Wycombe Women's Aid - supporting women and children in Wycombe, Chilterns and South Bucks who are experiencing or trying to escape domestic violence - telephone: 01494 461367 email: wycombewomensaid.org.uk
- AVMKSAASS (Aylesbury & Milton Keynes Sexual Assault and Abuse Support Service) - provide advice, support and counselling to women and girls and men and boys over sixteen that have been affected by sexual violence. #They also help men and boys who are victims of domestic abuse - telephone: 01296 719772
- 24-hour National Domestic Abuse Helpline – free confidential advice and support line - telephone: 0808 2000 247
- Give us a Shout - Shout 85258 is a free, confidential, 24/7 text messaging support service for anyone who is struggling to cope.
- One Recovery Bucks - substance misuse service for adults in Buckinghamshire - telephone: 0300 772 9672
- Reducing The Risk – Buckinghamshire support service for all domestic abuse victims
- Respect – for people who are abusive to their partners and want to stop - telephone: 0808 8010327
- Victims First – service that supports all victims and witnesses to cope and recover from the impact of crime - telephone: 0300 1234 148
- Mankind - confidential helpline for male victims of domestic abuse - telephone: 01823 334244
- Male Advice Line –helpline for male victims of domestic abuse and those supporting them - telephone: 0808 8010327
Young Person Services
- Childline – trained children and young people counselling support line - telephone: 0800 1111
- SAFE - Provides support to children and families who have been affected by crime or abuse. Telephone: 0800 133 7938
- Switch Bucks – Young person drug and alcohol service for Buckinghamshire - telephone: 01494 527000 email: Switchbucks@cranstoun.org.uk