Domestic violence in LGBT relationships

1. Guidelines for professionals

Key documents and information about domestic violence and abuse within Buckinghamshire.


Buckinghamshire Domestic Violence and Abuse Strategy 2018 to 2021

The domestic violence and abuse strategy builds on the building blocks of the last strategy and sets out what agencies should be working towards within Buckinghamshire around domestic violence and abuse. 

The vision is to promote a zero tolerance and coordinated response to people at risk of domestic violence or abuse in Buckinghamshire, to seek to ensure that those who are affected are identified, supported, protected and empowered.

Buckinghamshire Domestic Violence and Abuse Strategy 2018 to 2021 HTML


Reducing the Risk website

National and local information and advice can be found on the Reducing the Risk website.

Here you will find information about the signs of domestic violence and abuse, local services that can help, honour based abuse, female genital mutilation (FGM), housing, injunctions and more.


Help and support

Anyone in immediate danger should phone 999.

If you are in danger and unable to talk on the phone, dial 999 from your mobile and then press 55. This will transfer the call to police, who will assist without the caller having to speak.

Anybody worried about causing harm to the ones they love can get help by contacting Respect Phoneline by calling 0808 802 4040 or visiting them online Respectphoneline.org.


Local domestic abuse organisations

Wycombe Women's Aid

Telephone: 01494 461367      
Email: wycombewomensaid.org.uk

Aylesbury Women's Aid

Telephone: 01296 437777       
Email: aylesburywomensaid.org.uk

Give us a Shout

Website: giveusashout.org


Telephone: 01296 719772
Website: avmksaass.org.uk

Victims First

Telephone: 0300 1234 148
Website: victims-first.org.uk

24-hour National Domestic Abuse Helpline

Telephone: 0808 2000 247


Young People affected by domestic abuse


Telephone: 0800 1111
Website: Childline.org 


Telephone: 0800 133 7938
Website: Safeproject.org 



2. Champions

As a domestic abuse champion you would be able to proactively help draw your agency and others together. Multi agency working in this way is the key to providing an effective, consistent and comprehensive service for those suffering from domestic abuse. It increases identification of domestic abuse and reduces both the proportion of repeat incidents and the impact on those experiencing domestic abuse

Please take a look at the Champion’s leaflet which is attached at the bottom of the screen in order to find out more information on what it is like to be a champion and the free training we provide.

Being a domestic abuse champion for your organisation you will:

  • Be the domestic violence specialist for your own organisation or service area
  • Be the link between your organisation or service area and other organisation or service area
  • Be the representative for your organisation or service area on the domestic violence countywide forum
  • Help deliver the countywide domestic abuse strategy
  • Help to cascaded training throughout your organisation/service area


DVA Champions leaflet

3. Multi-Agency Risk Assessment Conference

The Multi-Agency Risk Assessment Conference (MARAC) is part of a coordinated community response to domestic abuse, incorporating representatives from statutory, community and voluntary agencies working with victims/survivors, children and the alleged perpetrator. The MARAC aims to:

  • Share information to increase the safety, health and well-being of victims/survivors – adults and their children
  • Determine whether the alleged perpetrator poses a significant risk to any particular individual or to the general community
  • Construct jointly and implement a risk management plan that provides professional support to all those at risk and that reduces the risk of harm
  • Reduce repeat victimisation
  • Improve agency accountability; and
  • Improve support for staff involved in high-risk domestic abuse cases.

Domestic Abuse Stalking and Harassment (DASH) Risk assessment form

Aim of the form:

  • To help front line practitioners identify high risk cases of domestic abuse, stalking and ‘honour’-based violence.
  • To decide which cases should be referred to Multi Agency Risk Assessment Conference (MARAC) and what other support might be required. A completed form becomes an active record that can be referred to in future for case management.
  • To offer a common tool to agencies that are part of the MARAC process and provide a shared understanding of risk in relation to domestic abuse, stalking and ‘honour’-based violence.
  • To enable agencies to make defensible decisions based on the evidence from extensive research of cases, including domestic homicides and ‘near misses’, which underpins most recognised models of risk assessment.

Independent Domestic Violence Advisers (IDVAs)

We provide crisis support and information for high or medium cases of domestic violence.  We offer this to people who are experiencing domestic abuse, with a priority given to their safety and that of their children. We are an independent, professional and confidential service, hosted by Aylesbury Women’s Aid and Wycombe Women’s Aid. 

We act as advocates on your behalf, exploring your legal options and/or supporting you through the court process. We can liaise with agencies such as housing, Crown Prosecution Service, the police, solicitors, etc with you or on your behalf. We aim to encourage you, enabling your interests to be heard by agencies and other relevant organisations. We provide advice and information about the range, effectiveness and suitability of options; to improve your safety and that of your children.

Complete the risk assessment form (PDF)

4. Domestic violence in LGBT relationships

Domestic violence is classed as any type of abusive behaviour by either partner that attempts to achieve and sustain control over the other. It is all about power and control, trying to manipulate and dominate the other.

It happens across all communities, all classes, long term or short term relationships, social classes, ages, different cultures. It can also happen in all types of relationships, even in LGBT relationships.


It's not always physical

Domestic violence can take many forms, including:hand painted like a rainbow giving the thumbs up

  • emotional abuse
  • physical violence
  • sexual assault
  • social or financial control

For many LGBT people, the reality of LGBT relationship violence is rarely discussed so it is not even surprising to hear that some LGBT people will not know where to get help. It may be hard for the victims to seek help as they may not want to disclose their sexuality because of the general homophobia or transphobia in modern society.

If you are experiencing abuse in a lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender relationship you do not have to suffer in silence. No one deserves to be in an abusive relationship.

For more information on the unique signs of domestic abuse within a LGBT relationship please see our LGBT Domestic Violence & Abuse leaflet.


Help available in Buckinghamshire

LAGLO Thames Valley Police
Lesbian and Gay Liaison Officers are available specifically to help LGBT victims in Buckinghamshire
Telephone: 101 and request a "LAGLO".

Aylesbury Women's Aid
Provides support to victims of Domestic Abuse through outreach, programmes and dedicated workers. Support is also on offer for male victims.
Telephone: 01296 436 827

Wycombe Women's Aid
Provides support to victims of Domestic Abuse through outreach, programmes and dedicated workers. Support is also on offer for male victims.
Telephone: 01494 461 367

In an Emergency
If your partner (or ex-partner) has assaulted you or you are afraid for your own or others' safety you can call the Police in an emergency always ring 999.

Police Domestic Abuse Investigation Unit
The Police take reports from the Lesbian, Bisexual, Gay and Transgender community very seriously.
Telephone: 101

Telephone: 0300 999 5428

National 24 Domestic Violence Helpline
Telephone: 0808 2000 247

A free, national telephone advice line staffed by trained housing advisers who can help
Telephone: 0808 800 4444

Gender Trust National Helpline
For more information on Trans* issues
Telephone: 01527 894 838

For people who are abusive to their partners and want to stop
Telephone: 0808 802 4040

One Recovery Bucks
Substance misuse service for adults
Telephone: 0300 772 9672

Young Addaction
Substance misuse service for young people
Telephone: 01296 331 933

For more information on LGBT Domestic Abuse advice visit the Reducing the Risk website.


Help available nationally

Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Trans Helpline 
Telephone: 0300 999 5428 
Online: GALAP website 

National 24 Domestic Violence Helpline
Telephone: 0808 2000 247

A free, national telephone advice line staffed by trained housing advisers who can help.
Telephone: 0808 800 4444
Online: Shelter website

Gender Trust National Helpline 
For more information on Trans issues 
Telephone: 01527 894 838

For people who are abusive to their partners and want to stop.
Telephone: 0808 802 4040
Online: Respect website

In an emergency always call 999